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09/04/2019

I NEED ADVICE on how to be a harder worker! Please answer?

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I NEED ADVICE on how to be a harder worker! Please answer?
I’m 17, senior in high school, and for clarification purposes, I’m not the kind of kid who prides himself on being lazy (because there are plenty of those at my school – you know, the kids who brag about how they get As without studying or doing homework). I hate the fact that I am lazy, but it’s just how I am; I’ve always been this way!
The peculiar thing is that I’ve taken the Myers-Briggs personality test 3 times now, and every time I’ve tested ISTJ, which is supposed to be the hard-working, duty fulfilling type. Well, that’s not me. I’m unorganized, very lazy and unmotivated. I want to develop motivation and drive in my life. Trust me, I want nothing more than to become ambitious and hard-working, but it’s really, REALLY hard. I’m bored at school every day! I usually try to do my homework, but most of the time I just don’t do it. It’s not like I put if off until late at night or forget to do it, I just choose not to do my homework a lot. I do fine on tests and keep A’s and B’s in school (top 10 in my class) but I always feel like I could be doing so much better, like I’m not reaching my potential. It’s a frustrating feeling. I always act like I’m working when my parents are around, so they don’t know that I”m lazy, and I always get good grades, so they just leave me alone when it comes to school.
But I want to know how I can shake off this crappy attitude. I want to be more organized and driven in school. I need advice! I got a 2230 on my SAT and a 32 on my ACT, if that’s any measure of my intelligence. My GPA is 4.3 and I really want to go to a good business college, like Michigan or NYU. But all of my friends have already submitted applications and I haven’t even started yet. I always tell myself I’ll start tomorrow, but here it is in late September and I haven’t filled out ANYTHING yet – I don’t even have a topic for my essay.
How can I will myself to try harder at life? Inside and outside of school? I believe I have the ability to get straight A’s and reach all my goals, but I feel I”ve been cursed with a wickedly apathetic demeanor. I need to start focusing more on my future, and I realize this, but I can never do it. I seriously need help!
Thanks in advance

ANSWER
Marlo,

It doesn’t matter how smart you are, but how you apply yourself. With that said I believe that the reason you are not studying is two fold: First you do not have a clear goal in mind of what you want and how to get there, and second you don’t like what you are studying.

Only you can solve your problem. Your nature is to be organized and not lazy but you are allowing your lack of motivation to shape your future. Take charge. Sit down and analyze why you don’t like the classes you are in. Sometimes it is necessary to take classes that you don’t like in order to reach your ultimate goal and sometimes you can take classes that will be more interesting and still meet the requirements necessary for graduation.

When I was in High School I hated math. My uncle told me that I needed to apply myself but I saw no need for me to be good at math. I wanted to go out into Recreation Management and how would I ever need math in that field? How wrong I was, because when I got to college I discovered that I couldn’t graduate without math. I had to take many math classes to raise me to the level where I needed to be to pass the math classes required in college. I really wish I would have applied myself in high school and listened to my Uncle. I found also that you use math all the time in the Recreation field but back then, I was short sighted.

Be wiser than I was. Sometimes it is necessary to do what we don’t like in order to reach our final goal. Find a specific time and place each day to do your homework and stick to it. When you are done with the boring stuff give yourself a reward. Remember that nothing worth achieving is done without hard work.

Check out the schools you have been considering and make a plan of what you want to be doing once you graduate from High School. Then find out what it is going to take to get there. Don’t rely on your parents, friends, teachers or any one else for motivation find it within yourself or it will never be strong enough to help you reach your goals.

One last thing…sometimes we don’t do things because there is an underlying reason that is stopping us from taking action. For example, I wanted to lose weight but I found I didn’t have enough will power to give up the goodies. Until I discovered that I liked the treats more than I liked the idea of losing weight I was doomed for failure. It was actually finding out that I has a mild case of diabetes that gave me the motivation. I started walking 2 to 3 miles a day, eating right and doing what I should to lose the weight and finally lost over 35 pounds. I am so much happier and healthier.

It was all in the analyzing of what was causing me to fail that finally helped me to achieve my goal and find happiness and health. You must do the same. Analyze and be honest with yourself, why you don’t want to study? Once you figure out the reason, then you can find a way to fix it.

Good luck!